A fallacy of men with a low emotional quotient (EQ) is their belief that all woman care about a man’s opinion on a woman’s physical appearance. This fallacy of men with low EQ manifests itself in different ways. In some ways it is benign, in other ways it is concerning, and sometimes it can be comical.
The most obvious is the low EQ men that sit together and talk endlessly about their opinions of how a woman looks. They speak as if their words matter, and they sway one another’s desire for a woman. They seem to think that when a woman walks into an establishment that she does so in order for them to check her out and pass their judgements. They long to be seen with an attractive woman, so they can prove themselves to their fellow low EQ’ers.
In contrast, men with a high EQ only care how they themselves perceive a woman’s beauty and this perception goes way beyond surface beauty.
A secondary way the low EQ man’s belief that their opinion of a woman’s physical appearance is of great importance is fraught with good intentions, for the most part. This manifestation is when a man repeatedly compliments the woman on her appearance as if he made a discovery that she is unaware of and is of great importance to her. We have all been their. I think some men do it because they are trying to show a woman kindness. Unfortunately, this behavior is all too often an example of a man thinking that his opinion matters when it does not, and it makes most woman feel awkward as they try to balance politeness with the need to get the man to leave them alone.
In contrast, men with a high EQ notice and compliment the things that matter to the woman. I know that a man is working on understanding me when he gives me feedback, whether constructive or positive on the things in life that matter to me. This never has anything to do with my physical appearance. I just do not care what men think of how I look. I never have. There is no bigger turn off than when a man compliments me by telling me I am beautiful, unless he skillfully does so in an earnest off handed remark sort of way. This is something that men with a low EQ never pull off.
Another example of a low EQ man’s belief that his opinion of a woman’s physical appearance matters, when his opinion does not at all matter, is when a man verbally attacks a woman and proceeds to insult her physical appearance. I find this example comical. In just about every case the woman is so out of the man’s league that the onlookers hesitate to step in as they feel sorry for the little low EQ’er. Everyone is thinking, “Did he just call her ugly? Does he actually think she cares about his opinion? He could never get a woman half of what she is. Sad that little man.“
Men like this truly don’t get that many of us females do not give much thought to their physical appearance. We exercise and eat right because it makes us feel good, and because it increases our chances of a longer life. A longer life means getting to see more of what our children become. That is what matters to us. We put our appearance together to play a part in corporate American that means early retirement and being able to provide for our children and in some cases our parents.
We have life plans. We take care of ourselves, and we are successful beyond what they could ever imagine being. Whether we are short or tall, thin or chubby, we are way out of a low EQ’ers league. Of course, they do not realize this, and they shout insults at us as if their opinion matters. Call me ugly? Ha! Do you not notice that I just stare at you? Confident women all know that creeps will be creeps. We are guilty of laughing at you, but mostly we pity you.
There is hope. People can grow their EQ. Sadly, for many this does not happen until the present becomes the distant past and it is too late. In the meantime, the low EQ’er carries on thinking he is a big man, high fiving with his buddies, while the rest of us know exactly what he is.