It has been about 2 days since someone sent me a text message asking, “How long did you wait?” This question was the last in a text dialogue discussing the fact that we were supposed to meet for coffee on Sunday morning, and he let me know at the time that we were to meet that he was not coming.
How long did I wait? Why do you ask?
The basic psychological theory on people who are always late is that it is a way of making themselves feel important in that others have to wait on them, and that people do in fact wait on them. So, does this person need to know how long I waited to pad their ego?
I have not responded to the question; I do not know how to respond. I do not think that the question warrants a response. Dog Mom says to write him off totally. I am not sure that this extreme is warranted either. This is yet another example in my overall concern that people have so many options they choose what is convenient at the moment, treat people however they want, and this sort of behavior is without consequence.
The worst thing that a person can do is use others to build their ego. I had a not so desirable person brag to me the other day that their dating life is on fire. They then proceeded to show me all of the people they are talking to on online dating apps. Doh! That isn’t real folks!
Standing a girl up on Sunday because a girl was easy on Saturday night or the alcohol was going down easy and then asking the girl that you stood up how long she waited for, may serve an ego well, but in the long run, this guy will come to understand that Saturday wasn’t real enough to last. While what he could have found on Sunday is very real.
A basic rule of life – If you want something great in life, you have to focus on it, and you have to put your heart, energy and time into getting what you want. You have to avoid the noise and distractions. Just because you can find something else in an instant does not mean that you should mistreat what you have in the present.
How long did I wait? Long enough to not be willing to waste any more time on him.